Blending Families

     Getting remarried is not a decision to be taken lightly. There is much to consider, especially when there are children involved from a previous marriage. Not to mention the joys of the adjustment period where you are confronted with children who are less enthused about sharing your time and attention, not only with your new spouse, but also the child(ren) they bring into the marriage.

     Keeping your sense of humor and things in perspective is critical to surviving this period. You must laugh when life’s little moments take over and:

            ~the laundry breeds when you’re not looking

            ~you become an expert detective when four dogs are staring at you and you’re trying to see which one looks the guiltiest – ‘who peed on the floor?’

            ~bodily functions happen at the most inopportune moments

            ~sound travels, especially once the new hardwood floors have been installed

            ~deciding over one brand of TP or toothpaste can be a tug of war

            ~Slug – Bug turns into a vicious round of Mortal Combat, even on the shortest trips

            ~tickling someone is more fun than arguing with them

            ~property dividends end up being about closet space

            ~mutual assets include everything except the last cheese stick in the frig

            ~joint custody does not include bed covers

            ~realizing that while your new spouse may not be perfect, but they are perfect for you!

     Life is challenging on the best of days making it essential that you remember to laugh at yourself, kiss your spouse, hold your loved ones, spend time together, and treasure the silly things. Because they are the moments that make life special. They are the moments that make you a family.

Coming this Christmas: Addison’s Toybox and Secret Squirrel Toys

Attention Ladies: Want to spice up your marriage? Looking to ignite more passion in your love life? Ever wonder how an erotica author gets inspired? Are you curious where she shops to add to her personal toybox? Well wonder no more …

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As a bonus, Addison has created secret little date night packages personally designed to liven up your marriage and ignite more passion in your bedroom. Addison’s discreet little toybox will arrive each month to your home filled with sultry toys and goodies to enhance your date nights.

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Married in Vegas

New York New York Hotel & Casino, Las Vegas

Several months ago, I was talked into going on a date with Eric. I loved talking to him. He had the best sense of humor of anyone I’d ever met and we had so much in common. However, as much as I dearly enjoyed discovering all about this man, I had placed him permanently in the ‘friend zone’ for two reasons:
1. He’s a police officer or rather a homicide detective – and I was never interested in dating a policeman because I never wanted to be at home worried about whether they’d make it home each day.
2. His daughter’s only nine. My youngest will be 22 years old this fall, and I’ve raised my children. I also have several grandchildren. I love this phase of my life where I can go anywhere and do anything without the added stress of having to find a sitter, or worse – dealing with the ex!! No thank you!!

Graceland Wedding Chapel, Las Vegas

However, because of his charming personality (that I absolutely loved) and being completely intrigued by him, I gave in to the unrelenting pressure from a couple of my friends and my daughter to at least meet him for dinner, we ended up all sleeping with the same pregnancy wedge pillow that night. I went, and it was amazing and the best first date I’ve ever been on. The conversation flowed effortlessly, and he had the most incredible clear blue eyes I’ve ever seen. The night ended with a hug and a small kiss on the cheek.
Second date: phenomenal – damn it! He made me laugh until I was in tears and I hated him for it. I was determined not to let this charismatic man anywhere near my heart. The following night I was flustered. I had two papers to complete for one of my graduate school classes and I was pushing a tight deadline. Therefore, I was pleasantly surprised when he showed up at my door to help me complete the research to get them done. We went shopping for a dress inside a local bridal shop. before dealing the deals.
And that was it, I was gone. Fast forward a passionate summer and we’re standing at the alter being married by Elvis at the Graceland Chapel!

For two people who never believed in love at first sight, giggled at the idea of soulmates, and swore they’d never get married again, I have no clue what happened and neither does he. All we can say is that we both ‘knew’ it was right. Things fell into place perfectly, the stars aligned, and destiny intervened.